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Understandings and relationships

When people say


We gel🤝

We are practically like twins ♊️

We are tight 🤗

I thought about it and he / she said it out loud 😱at the same time!!!

We are at the same wavelength 🔉


Definitely it’s lovely to have that kind of *safety* in a relationship. ⛑

It’s a blessing to have *genuine* 😇friends and loved ones in life.


To all is those who have such kind hearted, taqwa based people in your life Alhamdulilallah.

Make dua for such kind souls and thank Allah Subhanahu Wa Tala for His blessings.


But many a times I have witnessed the masking 🎭of true feelings.


Shutting down because we are too scared 😰, to rock the boat.


Then there are those kinds of relationships too where there is an unsaid kind of barrier, if you say what I don’t like ,

I will cut you off, 😡

strike you out, 😤

turn against you,👿

belittle you,🤬

take you through an emotionally draining path where you will end up feeling stupid and sorry.😣

Mark you as hostile ( when actually I am the hostile one here )☣️

Make you feel crazy 🤪

Have people talk about you negatively

Have an endless array of sarcasm and put you done notes in my tone during our conversation😟🙁😥



EVERYONE GETS THE PICTURE I HOPE.


Our mistake,


We think understanding with someone is a *LIFE LONG ONE TIME CONNECTION* that magically happened.


Eg : Like you connect the wires and the lights lit up ! That one click !! 💡


NOOOOOOOOOOO


Understanding in relationships is like the on off switch! 🎚


The relationship is a room 🚻🛖

and your connection/ understanding with the person either lights the room or makes it dim.


💡We make the effort to take care of the relationship, the room.


💡We clean it,

💡We arrange it,

💡According to the weather we turn up the cold or the hear,

💡According to the time of the day, we open or close the lights or curtains when needed.


💡And like every room .. our relationships sometimes get cluttered or

💡Need to be emptied.


The power of relationship lies in how you work on taking care of the relationship,

💡respectfully,

💡thoughtfully,

💡kindly.


Understanding someone and taking up the challenge to like them, love them is a long term commitment.

One can enjoy it for life or it can end abruptly.

The key is to NOT hold the relationship hostage!


Understandings mean

we can disagree,

we can debate,

we can excuse ourself from being a part of something we don’t agree with and still hold the relationship as a safe space


What amazes me about US ( human beings is that we repair, change and make an effort)

we do.

Our mutual interest is to be


loved

acknowledged

validated

understood

admired

taken care of


It should never be a case of

“I will stop respecting, loving, liking you, the minute we disagree”

We will get disappointed, we will feel hurt but remember we are not being BETRAYED.


Yes the surprise disagreement is a blow to our expectation, a taint to our reality, A cozy room temperate that we were enjoying.


But it does not need to get hostile,degrading or loathing.


We are all going to get into each other‘s list of “not agreeable” more than we would like to admit. That‘s our human reality.


So choose today, to be

TRULY UNDERSTANDING


of


📌OUR INTENTIONS IN A RELATIONSHIP

📌OUR HEART‘S SINCERITY 📌ARE WE ABLE TO SEE THINGS BEYOND OUR PERSONAL AGENDAS

📌OUR OUR BOUNDARIES CLEARLY ADDRESSED and PRACTICED



May we increase in our understanding of love, friendships, relationships, boundaries, kindness, compassion, empathy, altruism, forgiveness.

Ameen.



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